Ask yourself these questions? Does your partner spend a lot of
time on line?
Do they have other email accounts, do they use the computer
after you have gone to bed, have they changed the passwords on
your computer, maybe they delete all incoming e-mails when they
used to accumulate.
It’s common for a cheating partner to use e-mail to communicate
with their lover. Some of the telltale signs in this category
may also be an indication of involvement in an on line or cyber
affair. Don’t take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful
to your marriage as the real thing. Though they may not involve
sexual contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely
strong, and can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical
reality.
Does your home phone ring and when “you” answer it there’s no
one there
Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take
place by phone. These telltale signs of infidelity are
relatively easy to find. Some people take the risk of calling
their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home.
Check your partner’s mobile phone, look at the call log,
incoming, outgoing, missed and deleted calls. Check the
messaging, texts in and out and deleted
Does your partner have little or no interest in sex? Or have
they changed their sexual habits
Be alert for any type of changes in the frequency or the quality
of your sex life together. Most important of all: If you suspect
your partner of having an affair, take steps to protect
yourself. Do not put yourself at risk from HIV/AIDS, herpes or
other sexually transmitted diseases.
Perhaps you find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet,
and you’ve had a vasectomy or maybe he carries condoms, and you
are on the pill.
Take a few minutes to look over your partner’s car; have they
removed the kid’s stuff or the baby seat?
The car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove
compartment, car seats (underneath and between), the spare tyre
well, under the sun visor, the ashtray, the side pockets or
compartments, under the floor mats and other nooks and crannies
can reveal a wealth of information .Has the passenger seat in
the car has been moved and is not in the usual position. Do
their clothes smell different, like a lover’s perfume or
aftershave?
Has your partner recently started working late or has to attend
lots of late meetings?
Business is commonly used as an excuse to account for large
blocks of time away from home. Partners often use their jobs as
a cover for extramarital affairs. Your partner’s work habits
will undoubtedly change as the affair unfolds.
Affairs generally require a considerable amount of time. There
are only 24 hours in a day; your partner’s absences will become
increasingly more frequent as they try to steal time from other
activities.
Has your partner changed their style of clothes i.e.: trying to
look younger?
People having an affair (or even thinking about having one) will
want to make themselves more attractive. They will begin to
enhance his appearance in some way. Be alert for changes in
wardrobe, grooming, physical appearance and personal hygiene.
These are usually the most visible signs of infidelity. If they
embark on a drastic self-induced makeover, it’s probably not for
you.
Do they act nervous or fidgety whenever the name of a colleague
or friend of the opposite/same sex is mentioned or talked about?
Studies show that we are more likely to have an affair with
someone we already know, someone that they come into contact
with on a regular basis - a neighbour, a colleague, a family
friend or business associate. If you’re observant, you may be
able to determine the identity of your partner’s lover by the
way they behaves in their presence.
Does your partner hide the credit card bills and banks
statements? Affairs cost money. If your partner has a lover,
they will want to wine and dine them entertain and buy the
occasional gifts.
No matter how carefully they cover their tracks; sooner or
later this will be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert
for financial signs of infidelity.
Be especially vigilant around the times of the year when gifts
are usually exchanged. During the holidays and various other
times throughout the year, you may find gifts or cards hidden
around your home or in the car. Receipts or credit card bills
for gifts may turn up shortly before or after Christmas and
Valentine’s Day.
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